Overthinking mid-convo is one of the fastest ways to kill your vibe.
You’re in your head like:
“Was that weird?”
“Should I say something else?”
“Why did I say it like that?”
“Should I be saying something right now?”
“Silence is so awkward”
“I don’t know what I should say next.”
The other person is talking, but you’re barely listening because your brain’s running a whole simulation on how to not come off as a socially incompetent weirdo.
Here is how were going to make your future interactions go so smooth even you’ll be amazed.
I’m sure you’ve heard the advice of “just listening to the person” but it is ALOT harder than people think.
Your mind wanders, you start to hear your own thoughts, your mind gets filled up by all the noise internally, and that’s how we get to over thinking.
I get it. I still catch my mind wandering sometimes, however the best way that has worked for me, was paying attention to EACH and EVERY SINGLE WORD the other person was saying to me.
Taking the time to fully digest the message that is being said.
Imagine each word popping up in front of you, works wonders.